So Far Away, Yet So Close

If you haven't noticed by now, I haven't posted anything in a good while. There were a few reasons why I hadn't posted lately but one big one is that I'm pretty embarrassed by my current debt. My student loans are still slowly making their way down but I haven't had any positive news to bring to the blogging world recently because I had to get my car fixed. And since I put everything I get towards my loans I had to use my credit cards. I'm not going to do a monthly update this month but I will do one next month. Instead I want to skip all the financial bullshit for a post and talk about something that  has me pretty bothered lately.

The M.R.S. I had never heard of the M.R.S. degree until I watched the movie Mona Lisa Smile, you know the one I'm talking about, with Julia Roberts. It's based back in the early 20th century when women started going to college but it was basically to meet smart young men and find a husband. You paid for an education but you found a future instead. I didn't realize women actually did this. They don't tell you about it in school. Heck, I took a women's studies class in college and no one told me about it! But folks it is alive and real.

Now, I'm not saying that I know girls that have gone out and actually done this. I went to a pretty expensive private college and I don't think anyone in attendance was willing to shell out $40,000/year just to meet a husband. But there are many girls I went to college with who got engaged either during their senior year or just after and they are already married and they aren't even 25 yet.

I might have a more modern view on this but what are we doing ladies? You have an entire life to live without being attached to someones side. I do have a significant other and I love him to death. I wouldn't trade him for anything (clearly, you saw how devastated I was during our break), but I also wouldn't base my entire future on his plans either.

Recently, my mother has been bothering me about getting a ring. My boyfriend got a great job, making some good money and it's a great opportunity out of college. And since then my mom's comments have been non-stop about how he can afford our lifestyle, my job no longer mattering as much because he'll take care of my student loans one day and the annoying but ever-present...pointing to her ring finger. I work hard at my job. I love working, being independent and I have to constantly remind her that his debt is his own and mine is my own. It isn't a burden for anyone else to bare and my future is in my hands and not his.

Is my mind that modern that my thinking is wrong? Ladies are we still looking for the M.R.S. degree and settling for it? Don't get me wrong, it would be easy to sit back and let someone else do the work but where is the fun in that? Yes, I want to have kids one day and maybe when that day comes I will take some time away from work or maybe he will. Who knows. But why are we settling and making our own selves more dull when we can shine brighter and better?

Sorry mama for letting you down but I'm not looking for the M.R.S. right now and she certainly isn't looking for me. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with settling down and enjoying your life while you're young but remember, it is your life and you only get one shot to live it. If the person you love truly loves you they will let you spread your wings as far as they can go without being afraid.